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Wednesday, 23 October 2019

Embracing Your Curls: Big Sister to Little Sister

Almost everyone that has naturally curly hair has struggled with it at one time or another, and I for one am no exception. But as I learnt to embrace my curls, I made a conscious effort to pass this message on to my little sister. I've watched her go through some of these challenges her self, learning how to care for her curls and feel comfortable in her natural hair among a group of friends with a completely different hair type. The big sister, little sister relationship is about guidance, and for sisters with curly hair or afro hair, sharing the experience of caring for your hair is insider knowledge that shouldn't been retained.

Me: How do people at school react to your hair?

Her: They mostly say how nice it is, and how they want curly hair like mine. But, they always touch it especially when I wear it down which is really annoying, and they ask loads of questions like how do  I brush it, and what do I put in it so I have to keep repeating myself.

There's an 8 year age gap between me and my sister, so I know exactly how she feels and hindsight really is a funny thing. I tell her often that I used to struggle with my hair too, but it's all about getting to know your curls and finding things what works for you. I never want her to feel embarrassed or hindered my her curls, they're as beautiful and special as she is. As I find products and tools that I love, I've shared this with her, and she now has her own little routine. For her birthday last year I put together a 'curl package' - her very own starter kit complete with shampoo & conditioner, styling products and brushes, needless to say she loved it.

A little before and after during her wash-day routine

Me: Do you like having curly hair?

Her: Of course, none of my friends have hair like mine so it makes mine special!

For those with curly hair, especially those who are mixedrace, your hair is a big part of your identity and a combination your ethnicity. Like me, my sister goes to the same school I did which is largely populated by white students, and she's experienced some of the hurdles I have, but unlike me, my sister is a lot more self-assurance than me. She know her hair is beautiful and she isn't afraid of vocalising that.

I know that she looks up to me, my mum often tells me that she tries to copy the things I do with my hair and she follows my directions to a T. I love seeing her getting to grips with her hair, it reminds me that being a big sister is about teaching my little sister and helping her embrace the things that make her special. Whether that be her hair, her sense of humour or any of her funny little ways, I love that our hair is one very special thing that we share.



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